TWO years ago next month, I lost my dear Dad to cancer. What myself and my family went through during the 18 months that he was ill is impossible to put into words. The pain is still so raw that there is hardly a day that goes by without shedding tears.

I, along with my Mother, sister and brother, provided 24-hour care to my Dad so that we could let him die at home in peace. They say time is a healer, and maybe it is, but when does it all begin to get easier? He is not even being left to "Rest in Peace" now.

You can imagine the grief and anger I am feeling at the moment. Myself and my family care for my Dad's "garden" with tender loving care; it is beautifully kept and looks lovely.

On the first Father's Day without my Dad, myself, by brother and sister, put together some money to buy our Dad a pot for his flowers.

We had it engraved with the words "Our Precious Dad", so why should we have to bury this below ground level so that the writing cannot be seen? Now, I do not begrudge the money spent on this pot one bit and it certainly was not cheap, so why would anyone, whether the pots are engraved or not, want to bury them?

The parish council says some of the graves are not to some people's liking. Well I'm sorry, but when people go up to visit their loved ones they go to their graves only.

If people then choose to go and have a look around then they are welcome, but surely it is not for them to pass judgement on how other graves are kept.

I go and have a walk around from time to time and I can only say how well kept most of the graves are, but there are those that are not well maintained, but it is not for me or any other person to pass their view on this.

As long as the people who are visiting that grave are happy with their plot, that surely is all that matters!

What really makes me mad as well is that at a recent meeting I was told to take my Dad's pot home and put in my garden I think this comment is totally insensitive and inappropriate.

I am so angry at all of this hassle that if my Dad had not been buried there for nearly two years I would have him dug up and put somewhere else where we can go and shower his "garden" with all the love we want to.

In a final note, whatever happened to the saying: "All things bright and beautiful"? I think the parish council have decided to change this to "All things dull, boring and easy to maintain".

I would like to thank the Bucks Free Press for their support over this rather upsetting situation and for making the public aware of what is going on.

Mrs T L Mackie

High Wycombe